I still mess this up…
I still mess this up…
Last week, my wife started telling me about a frustrating day at work.
I listened for 30 seconds, then before I knew it I jumped in:
Maybe you should…
Have you tried…
She looked at me and said:
I don’t need a solution. I just need you to listen.
So now, before I say a word, I ask:
Do you want a view, a vent or a vibe?
These are my 3️⃣ tidbits on my 3V (view, vent, vibe) Listening Framework:
1. View
They want your perspective. Ask questions. Share your take.
2. Vent
They need to vent. You aren’t there to fix, just be there and just listen. Really listen.
3. Vibe
They don’t need advice, they need your presence. Meet emotion with emotion.
Next time someone opens up, ask:
Do you want a view, a vent or vibe?
And hat tip, it’s generally never your view first up!
Thought Provoking Quotes on this week’s topic
Doug Larson
Wisdom is the reward you get for a lifetime of listening when you’d have preferred to talk.
Abigail Van Buren
The less you talk, the more you’re listened to.